Walk away from your blog for a few months and you turn back to find the whole world upside down. Weird.
So, we are sheltering in place, we are social distancing, we are zooming all the things. Yes, the kids are spending too much time on screens. Yes, we are gardening like we’re preppers. We are baking bread, we are washing our hands, we are sewing masks, we are all just trying to hang on.
But how do we educate our children with the world falling apart around us? How do we deal with the seismic shifts in our civilization happening? How do we, especially those of us who haven’t done this before, guide our kids through the next few months without making this more stressful than it needs to be?
There are a lot of resources out there on this, my list is by no means exhaustive but it might help you get started.
- Schooling at home doesn’t take as long as schooling at school. It takes much less time to get one kid through a lesson than it does 30 so if you’re concerned that your kid is flying through things and doesn’t have enough to do, don’t be. If elementary lessons are taking more than 2 hours, you may need to adjust things. Middle and high school will obviously take longer but it really shouldn’t be 8.
- If your kids are freaking out over this interruption in their routine/lack of contact with friends/disruption of their lives, it is important to give them all of the grace on this. TAKE THE WEEK OFF!!! A super stressed kid is not a kid who is learning anything. Give them some space to relax into this new reality and adjust their minds around this new life we all find ourselves in.
- Reading and math are the most important things, anything else is gravy. I don’t mean that history, science, art, etc aren’t important. I mean that those things can be made up later. Reading and math are skills rather than facts. Kids who keep doing those things won’t backslide during this time. You can always remind them about Newton’s third law of motion later. Relearning the times tables is much more difficult.
- Give yourself some grace here as well. You also have had your world turned upside down. It’s ok to grieve that. If you are not up to teaching full time right now, see #3. Get your kids through those things and then go take a nap or read a book or bake some bread. Do whatever it is that helps you feel a little more normal.
- Last point, we’ve all seen those color coordinated schedules floating around the internet. No, just No! You do not need to schedule creative time for your kids. I feel like that’s an oxymoron anyway. Throw that schedule out but consider replacing it with a routine that works for you and your kids. This can be pretty loose but it should be consistent. For my kids, they get up when they get up, they eat breakfast (or lunch) when they are hungry but as soon as that first meal of the day is over, we do a quick family meeting where I tell them my expectations of the day. Some families do something similar where they give each kid a list. My expectation have been so few lately that that seems unnecessary. They know they need to have their chores and school work done before they can have screen time. They know that there is no screen time until 3 o’clock. Beyond that, they are in charge of their day and they can decide when things will be accomplished. The routine rather than the schedule gives them agency in their own lives and it means that I spend much less time enforcing or explaining because they knew what needed to happen going in.
The most important thing right now is to give yourself and your kids a lot of grace. Let that eye roll from your teenager pass without comment, give the whiny kindergartner a little more time before you crack down on that nonsense, let yourself sleep an extra half hour if you’re tired. Give your family time to adjust to this new reality and find ways to love each other through this.